The story of ama.
Every community needs its village.
This is ours.
ama. is the world's first private community built exclusively for Single Mothers by Choice — women choosing motherhood on their own terms.
A verified, women-only space where questions become conversations, strangers become friends, and no woman has to explain why she's here.
Our mission
The village many of us wished
we'd found sooner.
Choosing this path shouldn't mean walking it without a village.
ama. exists so no woman has to.
Why we chose the name ama.
Across many cultures, ama has long been associated with motherhood, care, and love.
It's one of the earliest sounds a child learns to make — a sound shared across languages and generations.
It felt like the right name for a community built around one of life's most meaningful journeys.
Meet the founder
Built from lived experience.
“I wasn’t looking for another source of information. I was looking for women who understood.”
I’m Melanie, founder of ama. and, most importantly, mum to my little girl, Vivienne.
I have always believed in building a life that feels true to you — even when it doesn’t follow the expected path.
In my thirties, that belief became deeply personal. I knew two things with absolute clarity: I wasn’t willing to settle for the wrong relationship, and I wasn’t willing to give up becoming a mother.
So at 39, I chose motherhood on my own terms.
What I wasn’t prepared for was how much of the journey I would navigate without a real community around me. There was information everywhere — about donors, fertility treatment, pregnancy and parenting — but finding women who truly understood the decisions, questions and emotions behind it was much harder.
There were forums. Facebook groups. Endless resources.
But there was no place that felt like mine.
No modern, private space where I could find women at the same stage, meet someone nearby, ask the question I didn’t want to ask publicly, or simply feel less alone in an experience that was changing my life.
And I kept thinking: why doesn’t this exist?
So I built it.
ama. is for the woman quietly wondering whether this path could be hers. For the woman choosing her donor or beginning treatment. For the woman who is pregnant, holding her newborn, raising her child — or years further along.
Different women. Different stories. One shared understanding.
ama. is the community I went looking for then — and the modern village I believe women choosing this path deserve now.
— Melanie
Frequently asked
Everything you might be wondering.
Who is ama. for?
ama. is for women choosing solo motherhood by choice — whether you're considering it, choosing a donor, trying to conceive, pregnant, or already raising your child.
Can anyone join ama.?
No. ama. is strictly for women on the solo motherhood by choice journey — whether you're thinking about it, trying to conceive, pregnant, or already a mom.
It's not a general parenting app, a fertility forum, or a space for couples or co-parents. Keeping ama. only for women on this path is what makes it feel like home for the women inside.
How does ama. actually work?
Every day, ama. introduces you to women who understand where you are — one at a time, ordered by relevance, never a directory to scroll.
If she feels right, you reach out. When you both reach out, you've found each other — ama. opens the conversation and offers a few starters so nobody stares at an empty chat.
Alongside that, Home is where the village asks questions and shares updates, Moonlight is always open for anonymous conversations, and Messages is where one-to-one friendships grow.
Is ama. free to sign up and use?
Yes. ama. is free to sign up and free to use today.
Our focus right now is building the village and making this space feel like home — not charging the women inside it.
Is ama. safe and private?
Safety is the foundation of ama. — not a feature added later.
ama. is a women-only space built strictly for solo mothers by choice. Verification is a private selfie, reviewed by the ama. team; once reviewed it's permanently deleted, and verified members carry a blue check.
Reporting and moderation are built in from day one, what you share stays inside the community, and we will never sell your data.
Your privacy, your story, and your peace come first. Always.
How do photos work in messages?
Photos in private messages only flow clearly when both women are verified. If either of you is unverified, incoming photos stay blurred — and the photo button is locked until you verify too.
The woman sending a photo is the one taking the risk, so we make sure it only reaches eyes that have been verified as a real solo mom by choice. A blurred photo shows a 'Verify to unlock' button — usually reviewed within 24 hours.
What is Moonlight?
Moonlight is ama.'s anonymous space, and it's always open — day or night. A quieter place for the thoughts, questions, and feelings you want somewhere to land.
Every time you share, you're given a soft nature name — 🌙 Willow, 🌙 Fern, 🌙 Juniper — and you can reroll it before you post. That name stays the same for that conversation. Replies are anonymous too.
No profiles, no follower counts, nothing traced back to you. Your real name and profile are never shown in Moonlight.
Where is ama. available?
ama. is available worldwide in English, with women joining from wherever they are on this journey. More languages and local communities will follow as the village grows.
Still wondering something? hello@joinama.co
For the women choosing this path.
And the village choosing them back.
Free to join. Women only. You'll meet your first women today.