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Community Guidelines

A space built for women walking solo motherhood by choice — from the first thought to the everyday reality. These guidelines keep Ama safe, warm, and real.

1. This is a solo motherhood by choice space

Ama is for women who are:

  • considering solo motherhood by choice
  • trying to conceive on their own
  • pregnant on their own
  • parenting on their own by choice

This is a space for a very specific path. Please honor that.

Men, recruiters, and brands do not post here.

2. Lead with care

Before you comment, ask:
Would I say this to her at 2am with a crying baby?

If not, rewrite it.

We reply with care — not judgment, not advice-dumping, not "well actually."

3. No judgment on how you mother

Breast or bottle. Cry-it-out or co-sleep. Working, staying home, or somewhere in between.

There is no one right way. We don't rank mothers here.

4. Confidentiality is sacred

What's shared in Ama stays in Ama.

  • No screenshots.
  • No forwarding.
  • No reposting someone else's story outside the app.

Breaking this means removal.

5. Verification means something

The blue check means there is a real woman behind the profile, reviewed by the Ama team.

It is never a status symbol. It is a safety signal.

Verified members unlock:

  • clear profile photos in DMs
  • meetup hosting
  • stronger trust across the community

6. DMs and meetups

  • Profile photos stay blurred in DMs until selfie verification is complete.
  • Meetups can only be hosted by verified members.
  • Meet in public the first time.
  • Trust your gut.
  • Report anything that feels off.

7. No pitching, selling, or recruiting

  • No MLMs.
  • No "DM me for details."
  • No coaching funnels.
  • No affiliate links disguised as advice.

Partnerships happen through Ama, not around it.

8. No dating, hookups, or male-gaze content

This isn't that kind of space. Let's keep it that way.

9. No dangerous medical misinformation

Share your experience. Not prescriptions.

Fertility, pregnancy, postpartum, and mental health are deeply personal — and sometimes medical. Please be careful.

10. Hard limits — immediate removal

  • Harassment
  • Racism
  • Transphobia
  • Homophobia
  • Ableism
  • Fatphobia
  • Doxxing
  • Sharing someone's identity, location, or private information
  • Sharing children's faces, schools, routines, or custody details without consent
  • Threats
  • Self-harm encouragement
  • Sexualizing minors
  • Fake accounts or impersonation
  • Selling or sharing screenshots from Ama

11. Talking about hard things

You can talk about PPD, grief, fertility loss, suicidal thoughts, abuse, addiction, and fear.

Heavy stories belong here too.

When you can, use content tags so others can choose when to step in.

If you are in crisis right now, please reach out to a real human too: local emergency services or a crisis line.

Ama is a community — not a clinic.

12. Protect each other

If someone shares something vulnerable, treat it gently.

  • Don't interrogate.
  • Don't diagnose.
  • Don't turn her story into debate.

Presence matters more than perfect advice.

13. Kids' privacy

Be thoughtful about sharing your child's face, name, school, or routines.

Many women here choose initials or blurred photos. Follow her lead.

14. Reporting

See something off? Report it.

The Ama team reviews every report. Reports are private. We will never reveal who made one.

These guidelines will grow with the community. If something here doesn't sit right, tell us.

Ama belongs to all of us.